黃維仁博士[親密之旅] 2009/5/24北美培訓迴響 部落格

This blog is an open space for students who attended 5/24/2009 North America JTI training (held at ROLCC, Santa Clara, California) to share your experience and learning from this two-day training.

We welcome your comments. Your sharing will encourage others and your feedback/ suggestions will help organizer’s planning in the future.


6 Responses to 黃維仁博士[親密之旅] 2009/5/24北美培訓迴響 部落格

  1. Linda Pao says:

    I did not know who Dr. Huang is until the seminar. I’ve learned quite a few things from the seminar. I’ll just share two of them. The first thing that makes me think is “good intension does not equate to good result”. Maybe my help ends up complicate their problem. Since I am a cell leader and also teach pre-marriage counseling class, I have to keep in mind not to rely on my personal experience / feelings to jump into conclusion to offer help. Dr. Huang mentioned that Jesus accepts first, then encourage and challenge people to do better.

    The second interesting point is that “Do you want to be right or be married?” Often the arguments or comments between me and my husband are small things. I need to remind myself it is fine to have different opinions and feelings toward one thing; and he does not have to agree with me all the time. I often tell myself, what do I get for winning or for being right? There is no trophy for winning, not even three minutes of joy. I may end up with a bigger price to pay…damaged relationship in marriage. My spouse should be my intimate lover, the one I’ll spend the rest of my life with. Nothing is more important than our relationship.

  2. Paul Huang says:

    這次黃維仁博士在北美灣區的『親密之旅』培訓課程,吸引了將近五百人參加,這實在是一次非常難得的盛會。大家都懷著一顆虛心學習的心,想要從黃博士多年來的研究心得中得到美好的經驗,可以使自己更多的成長,並且可以很實在的、有技巧性的、正確的幫助到我們週遭需要幫助的人。
    黃博士深入簡出的教導,使艱深的心理學理論可以化為比較實際、比較親切的實用技術;實證研究的資料數據加深人的印象,並產生可靠的說服力;實際的演練是最令我感到興奮不已的,因為可以真實的感受到彼此內裡情緒的反應;黃博士本身的特質也深深地吸引我,他的言語真摯、親切,態度誠懇、可親,條理分明;他耐心傾聽學員的問題與分享,並能以同理心回應,為要使人得到最大的好處。這一天半的研習,對我來講實在是一大享受。
    但有幾點我個人覺得有點美中不足的地方,提出來與大家分享:
    1.詳細的課程內容都在DVD裡:雖然黃博士一開始就說明這個培訓課程內容都在DVD裡,上課所講的都是額外增加的。我個人也認為這是真的,但對某些人來講,他們當初報名要來參加這個研習,就是希望能從這個研習當中學到很實際的東西是可以帶回去的;況且主辦單位當時也沒有特別說明,一定要購買DVD教材才能真正學到的東西。以致於心理所期盼的願望與實際所得的有很大的落差。
    2.非常棒的示範:牙刷的例子,讓我印象深刻,這實在是一個非常棒的示範,只是我心中在想,這必須用多少的時間操練才能達到這種境界?又如果夫妻之間一個想做,另一個並不想做(或沒參加這樣的培訓課程),那是否又是一個失落?在跟進的過程中,若沒有有實務經驗的帶領者,萬一碰到突發狀況,無法處理,或處置不當,該如何處理呢?講員或許可以提供一些可遵行的應變原則或方法。
    3.課程的時數不足:這麼好的課程,如此難得的講員,如果授課的時間可以再長一點,或許效果會更好。整個流程給人的感覺就是很趕,如蜻蜓點水般,激起一點漣漪,就歸平淡,似嫌可惜些,當然內容都在DVD裡。
    4.DVD的預備不足:當有心想學習的人要買這套課程,卻已經沒有了,必須再等上一段時刻,而且價格未定,實在是很可惜,因為打鐵要趁熱啊!而且主辦單位也沒有考慮到在國內製作的DVD規格與美規不符的問題,以致產生了不方便。

    謝謝黃博士的教導,使我們可以有這美好的〝親密之旅〞的學習,我們也看到主辦單位辛勞的付出,才能使我們有這麼舒適的學習環境。願神祝福〝親密之旅〞的培訓課程可使更多的人、更多的家庭得以堅固、健康。

  3. chunling liu says:

    I have been to Dr. Huang seminar for 3 years in a row. Every time I learn something new.
    This time, I have learned “Being is more important than doing” and ” relationship is more
    important than efficiency.” Often I find myself try to be efficient and ignore relationship.
    It takes patience to be relationship oriented. When people just fell in love, relationship is
    honored and everything you do is sweet. But soon after, we try to achieve instead of
    to grow. So “doing” and “efficient” becomes priority.

  4. Steve F. says:

    Our joyful training led by Dr. Huang has reinforced the relationship between the married couple, as “Buffalo” and “Butterfly”. Please visit my blog for your review and comment. Thanks.

    SF for MiraBay

    http://www.palmsky.blogspot.com

  5. Steve F. says:

    The training program led by Dr, Huang was so fascinating that has enabled to improve the relationship between the married couple after all. For my sharing, please visit my blog:

    http://www.palmsky.blogspot.com

    Steve F. for MiraBay – mirror on His words

  6. Tim says:

    I concur Paul Huang’s statement.

    For personal or couple learning to improve couple relationship or seeking for more practical exercise, I am not sure if by watching DVD as the main training/learning method will work. I recommend MER 恩愛夫妻營 (Marriage Enrichment Retreat) if you have not been there yet.

    There are much more practical and touching teaching there. In my opinion, that probably leads to better results. For those have been in MER, I even believe to join MER 2nd times should help my improvement more effectively.

    For those who participated the 2 day classes to becoming a JTI leader, allow me to share my thought:
    Regarding to the “certificate of participation” we received, are we ready and feel we are “certified” after this 2 days class? I guess not. Since majority of the real teaching are in his DVD (unfortunately I don’t have the DVD yet). We have to watch the entire DVD and learn, practice the in-depth knowledge from the DVD. Fail to do so in my opinion the “certificate of participation” does not result too much value. So for those who have the DVD, how many of us have watched them with our very busy schedule? (together with your spouse or other couples to learn, practice and internalize), not easy job. I envy you if you accomplished that.

    I am very curious about how many students have started watching/practicing more contents from the DVD, after we received our first “certificate”. If you have not done that, better hurry up to do it then share with us you can make it to encourage all of us with hope.

    Are there any organized group continue learning including DVD viewing, rehearsing, etc?

    For Dr. Huang, I sincerely respect and admire his passion and profession.

    Tim

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